Advantages of Marriage counseling.
Everybody’s wish is to have a perfect relationship that will lead to marriage and live happily ever after. Nature-wise a man and a woman was created to be each other’s companion thus coordinate and come into agreement as two lovers and then settle together. Couples don’t show their true colors while dating thus may think when they get married it will be all rosy. In most cases couples don’t show their real selves and character until when they are officially married.
Marriage therapists have confirmed that when two people are in courtship they tend to be very cautious not to hurt each other until when they moved in together. But they will start showing their true characters when they get married and can no longer pretend. pretense don’t last for long and married people can’t pretend for long after moving in together.
Professionally a therapist must not favor anyone rather be very fair to both parties. When a therapist is handling the couple’s case he/she should make them feel comfortable and live there content. For a counselor to be able to handle the couple’s case the two must be in a position of speaking out their issue openly without fear of contradiction. By listening to their complaint the counselor will then allow them to express themselves in turns as this helps the couple to feel at ease. Arguing in the counseling room is not allowed thus the counsellor’s job is to maintain calmness during sessions. Couples are adults and at times they can be very stubborn and irritant thus a counselor should be tough enough to handle such scenarios.
A counselor should, therefore, be a good listener, patient, have a strong personality, and very wise to be able to deal with such cases. A marriage counselor’s job is to unite the couple make them understand that conflicts do occur and that it is very normal for any marriage to undergo such. The two parties shouldn’t be made feel awkward about their situation but they should be made to feel comfortable and allow them to feel it is a normal case just like any other. A counselor must remain justful and avoid taking sides focusing on the key issue of the problem before coming into any conclusion. Cases will always differ and that’s why the counselor will handle the case and end it when he/she feels it is the right time to do so.
In some scenarios the couple’s case may need more time depending on with the issue and even after prolonged sessions if a counselor feels there is no progress seen he/she may refer them to a different therapist. Communication between couples is the main problem to most marriage breakages.